If you had asked me 10 years ago what one of my biggest dream was, I would’ve said “moving to New York”. My parents and their friends had visited New York a few times in my early/mid-teens and I remember always going online each time they visited to watch them wave to us from the TGI Fridays Times Square Live Webcam! A few years later for my 16th birthday my parents took my sister and I to New York. Nothing will ever compare to visiting the city for the first time…Read More
On Monday 12th September it was my 1 year anniversary of arriving in NYC. Naturally I was in a very thankful and reflective mood all day so thought it would be quite cool to do a post highlighting some lessons or things I've done since moving to NYC. I'll try keep it as light as possible but you know me, there is bound to be at least one pointer that is somewhat deep. So here goes.
10 Lessons I've Learnt Living in NYC:
1. ANYTHING can happen on a New York Subway. And when I say ANYTHING. I mean anything. The biggest lesson I've learnt, from other New Yorkers and from my own experience is that; if I am waiting on the platform, the train pulls up and there is an empty car, DO NOT get on it. It is empty for a REASON. I learnt the hard way on a hot summers day that the car was empty for two very specific reasons:
a) The AC was not working. Ask any New Yorker and they'll tell you that waiting on a Subway platform in the middle of the summer is the WORST. And the feeling you get when you step onto a car with no AC is nothing short of "I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE"
b) You may want to skip over this point if you have a sensitive stomach. But I entered the train and not only did it have no AC, but also, right down the other end of the carriage was a woman taking a s**t. I know. This is somewhat 18+ for NevNYC. But how awful!
I've heard someone say you aren't a real New Yorker until you've lived here for 10 years. Or unless you've seen a human take a s**t publicly. I guess I'm halfway there.
2. Coffee is an essential part of life. I was NOT in anyway a coffee drinker in NYC. In fact. I hated the taste. But you can't walk the city streets without passing a coffee shop so decided to submit for a second and see what all the fuss is about. Now a year later. I feel I cannot function full or properly without the beverage. I will be doing a blogpost on my top 5 favourite coffee shops in NYC very soon!
3. Positivity is key when living here. I've written a blog post about this before, and it really is important. A lot happens here and hustle and bustle can really get to you. As soon as you're in a bad place then New York becomes that bad place. It can be a toxic environment. Stay positive, stay energised, stay excited and the city is one of the most magical places you can be. Trust me. A simple change in through process can do a whole load of good. Not only in New York, but wherever you are.
4. Your friends are the family you can choose. Especially when your family is 3,000 miles away. I can honestly sit here and say that within the past year I have made some of the best friends I could ask for, through shared experience, similar passions and a love for the city, I have met some wonderful friends who I am lucky enough to call my NYC family. Forming new friendships has also taught me the value of my long-distance and long-time friendships back at home. Meaning that heading home across the Atlantic Ocean feels nothing short of "stepping over a puddle".
5. Time is precious. I have never rammed so much stuff into a 24 hour period, nor have I ever had to schedule sleep. Which seems to be the norm here. With everything going a mile a minute I have definitely learnt the value of planning ahead. Not only because of the industry I'm training in but simply the environment I'm living in. I need to plan ample time to commute, squeeze in time to eat, time to blink, time to breathe etc.etc.etc. Help! But most importantly, I have to always schedule some time to take a step back and go, look at what I'm doing and where I'm living!! That always makes the busy schedule worth it.
6. Confidence in Self-Image. This was something I've struggled with in my late-teenage life, and it began to bleed into my early-twenties too. My mind was plagued with "I'm too chunky", "My hair is too thin", "My clothes are crap" etc. You know, the usual angsty adolescent sh*t. But the past year has taught me to really accept what I look like. My image is my image, and in my internal happiness, I found that it began to effect my external image in a positive. Only when I truly accepted what I look like, did I begin to see changes in my fitness, in my skin and in how I see myself.
7. No one ever goes to Times Square. I wrote a post about this waaaay back in May. But it is so true. I had this common misconception that everyone went to Times Square all of the time. Oh, how wrong I was and oh, how little I have gone there. Times Square however serves a great purpose for me sometimes, it reminds me of where I was 2.5 years ago when I visited New York with my school and how much I wanted to live here. Well here I am! Once in a while its nice to sit on the top of the red TKTS steps and think about that. But take note that I say ONCE IN A WHILE (never).
8. Trader Joes is the best thing ever. Possibly the most valuable lesson I have learnt. We don't actually have one of these grocery stores or supermarkets in England but holy sh*t its incredible. It's sort of like America's version of Marks and Spencer's Food. A wholesome store full of own brand stuff. It literally holds some of my fave foods; Soy Cherry Garcia Ice Cream with Vegan Chocolate Chunks, Dark Chocolate Cookie Butter Cups, Avocado Tortilla Chips. The list is endless. If you are staying in New York for an extended period of time, I can't tell you enough. GET YOUR GROCERIES AT TRADER JOES
9. I'm in love with a man named Gino Anthony Puntonio. Holy sh*t my 16 year old self is freaking out right now. For those of you who don't know who Gino is he's the Italian fella that has been in pretty much every one of my blog posts, because he's a camera whore. I feel I am continuously learning within this relationship, but daaaaaaayum its exciting!
10. I am enough. This is what I put on my Facebook status about this anniversary and I stand by it. This is one of the most important things I have ever learnt. It's so easy in our home towns to get caught up in, who's doing what, whos been with who, whos done this, who's going here, whos going there etc. I finally have been able to not ask those questions or make those comments and simply say, "You know what, I'm not going to compare myself to anyone else today. I am simply, enough". Damn that's an exciting concept. Of course there is days where I'm like, "FOR F**KS SAKE LUKE!", but having access to this concept has been a healthy development for me in my personal life as well as me in my professional life and this is not only supported by the environment but by the industry professionals I surround myself in. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.
It has been so cool to be able to look back upon the past year and even the past couple of months with NevNYC and really see a difference in myself as well as seeing growth. With the celebration of this anniversary I'm only more excited for what the future holds and I can't wait to bring you guys along for the ride!
HAPPY MONDAY EVERYONE!
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